‘My son is ashamed because I walk around naked and have a sexy younger partner’

My son refuses to bring over his new fiancée.

He says I’m too mortifying to introduce to this posh ­beautician. Sadly, my boy doesn’t approve of my young lover.

He hates the way we openly kiss and touch and frequently walk around the house nude.

I’ve promised him I will never do anything to embarrass him. If he gives me advance warning, I’ll always ensure I’m fully clothed and that all of our sex toys and erotic art are packed away. I can’t say fairer than that, can I?

But, apparently, that’s not enough. Not only is he ashamed of my boyfriend, but the way I look and talk and how my home is decorated.

So, I like bright colours and speak my mind? Sue me.

He may label my house a ­“hideous mess”, but I call it ­eclectic. I like my bits and bobs. I feel they make a house a home.

Besides, why should I pretend to be something I’m not?

Yes, my boyfriend is a bit wacky, but he’s free-spirited and sexy and makes me laugh. He treats me a darn sight better than my son’s real father ever did.

I’m the first to admit I was a raver as a younger woman. I was a woman full of energy, who didn’t mind drinking too much and sleeping about. I’ve never got round to growing up.

Sadly, it seems nothing about me makes my son proud. I’ve accused him of being “up himself”.

He’s accused me of being “pathetic”.

This is so upsetting. He used to be such a lovely little boy, but now he’s judgmental and cold.

I’d love to meet the woman he’s fallen for but am being kept shut away – and that hurts.

JANE SAYS: Your son sounds an angry and disgruntled person. If he has a number of unresolved issues regarding his childhood and your ­lifestyle choices today, then should you and he meet on neutral ground for a number of long overdue chats?

Why don’t you suggest ­taking things slowly with a cup of tea in a park?

Allow him to talk and try to understand where he’s ­coming from.

Tell him you respect his feelings and will answer any questions he has.

But also make it clear you have always done your best and that you are an ­individual. Maybe you have made mistakes along the way (haven’t we all?) – but nothing you have ever done has been committed with malice or unkindness.

Be prepared to apologise for any obvious mistakes he may throw up – but remind him that his behaviour is less than perfect.

His fiancée may just like you, she might find you ­interesting and refreshing.

Cutting you out of his life would be a big mistake.

What if they have children together?

Are you to be denied seeing any grandchildren? That would be cruel.

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