My husband won't have sex with me or even touch me since I had a mastectomy

All he wants is oral.

Our relationship is otherwise great. We are both 55 and have been married for 26 years.

We used to have regular sex but not since I had breast cancer and a mastectomy three years ago.

All he wants from me is oral. He will not even touch me.

I am fully recovered now and my doctor says there is no reason not to have sex.

My husband says he loves me but how can he if he treats me like this?

I feel I am just a housekeeper, not his wife.

DEIDRE SAYS: He will have been worried sick about you when you were ill and may be scared what your scars look like and whether he might hurt you.

You must say how hurtful it feels and ask him what it’s about for him. It’s unfair to expect one-sided oral sex.

Find help at Macmillan Cancer Support macmillan. org.uk, 0808 808 0000).


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