My husband revealed he raped a drunk woman before we met

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband revealed he and his best mate raped a drunk woman before we met.

I’ve left him now but I can’t stop thinking about it. It’s making me sick.

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We were married for eight years. I’m 36 and he’s 38.

Our marriage was always rocky and he was often nasty.

I grew to hate him and spent as much time as I could out of the house so I could avoid him.

A couple of months ago, he got drunk and told me that he and his best mate had sex with a woman they met at a party ten years ago.

He seemed proud of himself and talked about it like it was a consensual threesome.

Then he admitted she was so drunk she was practically unconscious.

I was horrified and told him that was rape. He just laughed.

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We ended up having a massive row and I walked out.

Now I’m divorcing him but my sister thinks I should go to the police and find the woman, who may not even realise this happened to her.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re right. If your ex had sex with this woman when she was incapable of consenting, this was rape.

You have made the decision to divorce him and now you need to decide if you should also report him.

Contact Rape Crisis (, helpline 0808 802 9999) and talk to them in confidence about this so they can advise and support you.

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