I'm convinced whingeing feminists are ruining romance for others
I set up a dating app to help my daughter find love – but I’m convinced whingeing feminists are ruining romance for other women by constantly having a go at blokes
- Dennie Smith, from Surrey, said she’s convinced feminists have ruined romance
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A dating app boss has complained ‘whingeing, easily offended feminists’ are ruining romance for other women by having a go at blokes who have ‘good manners’ and offer them their seat or offer to pay the bill.
Dennie Smith, from Sanderstead, Surrey, was inspired to set up her own dating website in 2018 in a bid to help her eldest daughter, 34-year-old Laurel Smith, find a fella.
She has blasted ‘middle-aged women’ insulted by what she deems to be chivalrous acts by kind-hearted blokes.
Help offering to carry a heavy box, being offered a seat, being addressed as ‘madam’ and the offer of paying for a meal were mooted by the mother-of-four as the reason behind some women being upset.
The 61-year-old blasted this ‘petty’ attitude for affected dating, saying: ‘Feminists whingeing about minor things are diverting from the real issues.’
Dennie Smith, from Sanderstead, Surrey, has complained ‘whingeing, easily offended feminists’ are ruining romance for other women by having a go at blokes who have ‘good manners’ and offer them their seat or offer to pay the bill
She was inspired to set up her own dating website in 2018 in a bid to help her eldest daughter, 34-year-old Laurel Smith, find a fella (pictured, Laurel)
She continued: ‘In this country we’ve got it good, I just don’t get it. We’ve had two female prime ministers, look how long Maggie Thatcher was in and how long ago that was, we’ve had the Queen there for 60 years.
‘We’ve got so many women in power and doing well, we’re not the little women that was 100 years ago, I think we’ve had it good.
‘You would think it was young women but it actually isn’t, it seems to be a lot of middle-aged women.
‘It drives me nuts, it’s pathetic, I don’t know if they do it for attention.. I don’t know what’s worse – that they do it or certain men are in agreement. It’s a crazy world.’
Dennie explained: ‘I set up the dating website Traditional Dating Club in 2018 to find a son-in-law.
‘My daughter is beautiful, independent, has her own flat, works in the City and has her own car. She wants a gent, if he asks her out she wants him to pay.
‘That’s not rude, she’d always offer, it’s just about manners and respect and not getting so offended over petty things.’
Dennie explained: ‘It just seems to be men bashing all the time at any opportunity. I would see these things as a nice gesture.
‘I speak to a lot of men on the site and many will message me privately and say ‘we’re damned if we do, we’re damned if we don’t’. I just think it’s creating not a very nice society.
Dennie shared a post on LinkedIn complaining about the attitude of young women, saying they felt ‘frequently upset or insulted by men’
‘I think this kind of attitude is affecting dating [as] the guys are too scared to approach women because they’re worried about getting abuse.’
The gran-of-two said there were ‘much more’ important things in the world to be offended by, including sex trafficking, child marriage, lack of access to education and genital mutilation.
Dennie’s LinkedIn post, published on March 1, reads: ‘I will never understand why there are so many women who get easily offended?
‘It seems that many women are frequently feeling upset or insulted by various actions from men!
‘Some women feel insulted when they are made to feel as if they are not as capable as men, for example in the case of carrying a heavy box ( yep, a recent post).
‘Others may feel offended if they are not being addressed in the right way (yep another post).
Dennie said she set up the dating app because her daughter ‘wanted a gent’ who would pay if he asked her out on a date
The gran-of-two said there were ‘much more’ important things in the world to be offended by, including sex trafficking, child marriage, lack of access to education and genital mutilation
‘Or if a man dares to try to do something polite like offering them a seat or paying for their meal ( many a post).
‘Personally I am more offended about the real problems that women face in many countries, such as sex trafficking, child marriages, lack of access to education, genital mutilation, and being forbidden from driving, just to name a few.
‘These are the real issues that we should be focusing on and working to solve, instead of getting upset over minor issues in my humble opinion.
‘I really don’t care how you address me or what you assume about me because there really are much more important things in the world that really do matter to me anyway!
‘And I admit I am a weakling and so definitely would appreciate help carrying a heavy box.
‘Let’s concentrate on the serious stuff only please.’
Hair salon owner Dennie said she was inspired to write her impassioned post after reading complaints from women offended by blokes’ offers or using what they deem as the wrong title
Hair salon owner Dennie said she was inspired to write her impassioned post after reading complaints from women offended by blokes’ offers or using what they deem as the wrong title.
Dennie said: ‘I saw a post on LinkedIn [a woman] was talking about carrying a box and was so insulted that this guy dared think she couldn’t carry the box [and offered to help].
‘Another was about being called something, maybe madam, and she was offended by that.
‘I was like ‘oh my god’. I’m a passionate person – I’m passionate about politics, the climate, but things like that are just so blimmin’ petty it’s untrue – and they’re spoiling it for the majority of other women.
‘I would tell these women offended by minor things to get a grip.’
Inspired by ‘geeky’ friends she made on a French history trip, Dennie set up Geek Meet Club (GMC) in November 2022 to help like-minded people meet for networking, friendship and dating.
Dennie said: ‘ I consider myself very geeky. I love Marvel, fantasy stuff but most of all I love history – particularly the World War One and Two era.
Dennie’s post racked up nearly 200 likes and comments, with many people commenting to say they loved her attitude
‘Just before covid I went on a 54-mile charity walk across the French battlefields on my own, as my husband wasn’t interested.
‘I made some friends – there were 10 men and two women – all chatting away with enthusiasm and it was so lovely.
‘I thought ‘wouldn’t it be great to have a site for that?’. I did some research, there are a few geeky sites but they’re American, very stereotyped, very naff.
‘So now it’s a networking, friendship and dating site. On a normal dating app it’s ‘travel, socialising and holidays’ [listed as interests].
‘I’ve recently added groups to this networking, friendship and dating app including mudlarking, Comic Con and theme parks.
‘Laurel’s still looking for a gent, sadly she’s not a geek so not on GMC.’
Dennie’s post racked up nearly 200 likes and comments.
One man commented: ‘Sticking my head above the parapet here Dennie – I love this!!
‘I’m very aware of the issues women face on a daily basis at the hands, mouths and minds of misogynistic men. It shouldn’t be happening, end of.
Dennie was motivated to set up the dating app because she said she was looking for a son-in-law
‘But it has also made me very aware of what I say and how I say it, to the extent I consciously don’t comment in any way, shape or form on how people look, even though I would only ever be complimentary, for fear of it being misinterpreted.
‘It’s a sad world when we cannot compliment another person without making them feel uncomfortable or assuming our actions have an ulterior motive.’
Another bloke wrote: ‘Fully appreciate your post and for highlighting this issue. I am very much old school, I’ll hold a door open, pay for a meal and offer a compliment, which to be honest you would think would be appreciated.
‘It’s very sad as you say about some of the attitudes from a minority of women towards men who are just trying to be nice with no agenda.’
One woman commented: ‘I love being complimented and cared for Dennie!
‘My new man opens the car door for me (which makes me feel special), has told me I smell lovely (I always wear perfume) AND we discussed money on our first meeting!
‘I welcome a man who is so open with his thoughts and feelings and who makes me feel I’m important to him and special.
‘My daughter is a high earner and has struggled until now with men taking the p**s financially quite frankly! So I guess it works both ways! (Thankfully she has finally met the right man for her!)’
Another woman wrote: ‘An ex-workmate had a fit when I mentioned my male neighbour had pulled my wheelie bin in for me!
‘I, on the other hand was delighted by his thoughtfulness. It was something I’d done for him too on a few occasions. Neighbourly, nothing sexist or chauvinistic about it.’
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