Ex-boyfriend of dominatrix nanny who left him then married Bumble match on first date 'relieved' to have moved on

July 3, 2019

THE ex-boyfriend of a kinky dominatrix nanny who lived with her and her new husband is "best off out of it", his mum claims.

Sarah Elliott, 34, married hubby Paul Edwards, 37, in Las Vegas ten days after meeting in December 2018 on dating app Bumble, but they shared a £375,000 bungalow with her ex Paul Rutson, 33.

Sarah- who has now sworn off monogamy and dived head first into the world of sex fetish parties – said Mr Edwards became jealous and their marriage ended after two months.

Mr Rutson, a local builder, has sold the home the threesome lived in as the naughty nanny hooks up with two new toyboys and his mum spoke out.

Mrs Rutson told MailOnline: "It was a strange thing with them all living together and I don't think it was good for anyone's health. I think Paul feels he is best out of it.

It was a very confusing situation with them all living together in that bungalow. It was unusual to say the least

"It was a very confusing situation with them all living together in that bungalow. It was unusual to say the least'.

She added: "I haven't seen Sarah in some time but I can say Paul and her are not together anymore. Paul has sold the bungalow they were living in."

A neighbour said he thought the marriage was a sham.

Nick Mepham said: 'I didn't really believe that marriage lark because her long-term boyfriend never moved out at all. I think it was all a stunt for the papers.

"Sarah was a nanny and looked after the children of wealthy couples. Often she would work odd hours and stay overnight caring for the children so I'd take in parcels for her.

'NICE COUPLE'

"She was nice, friendly. Her partner Paul was in the building trade and had his own business. I think the only time we ever had words was when he'd start making a noise in his garden late at night working at some DIY project.

"They were a perfectly nice couple and I never knew the other guy."

Sarah has vowed she will never settle for having just one partner again — and has instead dived head first into the kinky world of sex fetish parties.

She has now sworn off monogamy – after her marriage to the man she wed on their first date ended in under two months.

TWO TOYBOYS

Sarah, who is now dating TWO toyboys, matched with husband Paul Edwards on dating app Bumble in December 2018.

Ten days later they met for the first time at Gatwick Airport and flew to Las Vegas to get hitched over Christmas.

But it’s not all doom and gloom for Sarah. She says: “My marriage may be over but it has opened me up to a whole new world.

“I no longer believe monogamy and marriage is the be-all and end-all.

“Now I’m living the polyamorous lifestyle and loving it.

“My rainbow hair is the embodiment of the new me — strong, confident and ready for whatever the weather.”

The couple’s split did not come as a surprise to Sarah’s family and friends, who always thought she was “bonkers” for marrying someone she had never met before.

And Sarah confessed it was not exactly lust at first sight.

She says: “I wasn’t initially attracted to Paul. But he seemed laid-back and nice and I was swept away in the moment.”

The pair celebrated their honeymoon by buying each other private lap dances at a strip club.

‘I TOOK MY WEDDING VOWS SERIOUSLY’

Sarah, who loves being a dominatrix, thought she had finally met someone who could keep up with her high sex drive.

“It was great,” she recalls. “I love kinky parties and role playing and although Paul was not au fait with that world, he was open to it.

“I thought I’d met my match, in and out of the bedroom.”

Once back in the UK, Paul, 37, who was training to be an electrician, moved from Chichester, West Sussex, into Sarah’s home in Crowborough, East Sussex, which she shared with her two exes — also called Paul.

Sarah says: “At first all three Pauls got on well. We were one big, happy, albeit unusual, family.

“But my husband was very jealous of one of my Pauls, who I’d had a long-term relationship with and who shared the mortgage.”

A week after husband Paul moved in, Sarah claims he started a row with her and her two Pauls.

She says: “Everyone was getting on well. We were playing a board game and chilling out together at home.

“But Paul got funny because I was apparently sitting two inches closer to my ex on the sofa.

“He accused me of still being in love with him.

“After that night the atmosphere turned sour and both ex Pauls started to hide in their rooms. It should have been a huge red flag.”

“I understood my Paul’s fears as it was a weird set-up.

“I’d sometimes be with my ex in his room, comforting him, but leaving the door open to appease my husband.

“But Paul would storm in and accuse me of sleeping with Paul.”

In an attempt to get their relationship back on track, Sarah says, the couple got dressed up in kinky gear for a night out at sex fetish party Torture Garden.

Unsurprisingly, it did not do the trick. Sarah says: “Paul was a fish out of water.

“Guys were coming up to me just to say ‘Hi’ and he would get all jealous and put his arm around me as if to say, ‘She’s mine’.

“Shortly after, we went to a gay night at a club in Brighton.

“I was chatting to a gay couple at the bar. They were being flirty, flamboyant and fabulous and pushed a lollipop in my face and said, ‘Do you want a suck babe?’.

“Jokingly, I obliged then gave one a cheeky kiss on the lips. Paul went absolutely mental and said I’d cheated on him.

“He followed me around the whole night and watched me like a hawk.

“I felt conned, like he had sold me a version of himself that wasn’t real.

“As I became less attracted to him, our sex life dwindled.

“He also got a man cold and was moaning all the time. It wasn’t sexy at all.”

In February, Sarah says she asked Paul to move out as the rows were getting her down.

But determined to prove the doubters wrong, Sarah decided to try to give their relationship another go. She says: “I knew people would say, ‘I told you so’, which was hard to swallow.

“We were married and I took those vows seriously. I still wanted to make it work.”

Later that month, they met for a romantic dinner. A few days after, Sarah says Paul invited her to a swingers’ night at club Le Boudoir in central London.

She continues: “We were having a good night and were both chatting to a couple.

“Paul fancied the girl and the pair started kissing. It didn’t bother me as, you know, we were in a swinging club, and I kissed her too.

“But then her boyfriend stuck his hand up my skirt and grabbed me and I thought, ‘This is not cool’.

“So I left the circle and went to get a drink.

“Paul was annoyed as I’d ruined his chances with the girl and started another big row.”

After a failed attempt at couples’ counselling, the pair split for good — days before their two-month anniversary.

And as Paul left Sarah’s flat for the final time, he took one of Sarah’s Pauls with him.

“That really upset me,” recalls Sarah. “He got that Paul to move in somewhere else. It wasn’t the ex he was really jealous of, it was my other ex, whom I dated for a while.

“It was really tough. I’d lost one of my jobs as a nanny and now I was going to lose the £500 a month rent from that Paul.”

It was then that Sarah says she decided to REALLY throw herself into the kink and sex fetish community.

‘I’D LOVE TO HAVE THREE BOYFRIENDS’

She says: “I became obsessed. I started going to a different BDSM event every week.

“I lost all my mates when I married Paul, so now all my new friends are at these events.”

In May she set up a profile on dating site OkCupid and matched with a 29-year-old toyboy who works in the City of London.

“He told me he was polyamorous,” she says. “We got on so well and his unconventional lifestyle made sense.

“He sees other women and I have recently met another 27-year-old guy who works in IT. It’s amazing, we all go to kink events together.

“I dress them up in whatever outfits I want and I am their dom.

“I dressed one up as a ballet dancer the other day.

“They don’t get jealous of each other and we always ask permission first before getting with someone else.

“After feeling trapped in a jealous marriage it has really put me off being with one man again.”

Laughing, she adds: “I’d love three boyfriends. It’s a good number.

“I’ve got another date next week and I am very excited about it.”

Ex-boyfriend of dominatrix nanny who left him then married Bumble match on first date 'relieved' to have moved on

'NICE COUPLE'

TWO TOYBOYS

‘I TOOK MY WEDDING VOWS SERIOUSLY’

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