Parents should give their teen daughters a vibrator, says controversial sexpert

When it comes to sex education at school, the quality of the lessons can really vary.

But there’s a strong opinion, especially from ‘sexperts’ such as Nadia Bokody, that young women aren’t taught enough about their own bodies and sexual pleasure.

Nadia, who has previously spoken out about taking masturbation breaks instead of coffee breaks at work, believes that instead of leaving it to school’s to teach the next generation what they need to know, it’s up to parents to take matters into their own hands.

And she believes the best way to do this is by giving your teenage daughter a vibrator and letting her experiment.

Speaking to Mirror Online, Nadia, who lives in Australia, said: "The sex education curriculum in schools really lets young people down – young women especially, because it doesn’t provide any understanding around female sexual pleasure.

"While boys learn about boners and wet dreams, the focus for girls is largely on menstruation and preventing unwanted pregnancy.

"This is why we can’t leave it up to schools to adequately prepare our kids for the complexities of sex. Until the school system catches up, parents really need to be doing it at home, and that starts with normalising, and encouraging, masturbation."

She goes on to discuss how she thinks we create so much "mystery" and "shame" around the female body.

"Around 30 percent of girls report being in pain when they’re having sex," she continued. "So why are they doing it? Because they don’t know what sexual pleasure should feel like. Because we won’t even say the word ‘vagina’ out loud – instead we say ‘your private place’ or ‘special area’.

"I understand people don’t like the fact kids are having sex. I don’t like it either. I do not think at age 14 a girl is truly prepared for the emotional complexities of sex, nor has a sound understanding of contraception and consent.

"But the reality is kids ARE having sex, and simply burying our heads in the sand and pretending it isn’t happening isn’t going to do anything to stop it. The best thing parents can do is arm their children with information and create a sex-positive, shame-free environement."

In Nadia’s personal opinion, the easiest way to create this environment is for parents to give their teenage daughters a vibrator.

She believes this act will tell your child that you’re not "policing" her body and that your home is a safe place to talk about sex – meaning she’ll be able to come to you with questions and for advice.

"By allowing your daughters to understand what sexual pleasure feels like, you’re empowering them to know the difference when they’re in a situation where a boy may be being too rough or they’re uncomfortable, and to actually speak up," she explained.

She added: "I talk to women in their 40s who still don’t know what an orgasm feels like. Women who have been in 10+ year marriages who fake their climaxes because they’re too ashamed to communicate with their husbands about it.

"That shame starts in childhood when we demonise masturbation and sex and shroud their bodies in mystery and stigma.

"Masturbation is a much safer, more gentle way for a young woman to engage in sex than going out and having partnered sex before she’s emotionally and mentally ready. Given the choice, wouldn’t you prefer your daughter touch her own body first, before letting another person touch it?"

For more of Nadia’s controversial sex and dating advice, you can follow her on  Instagram .

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