I am devastated after claims that my vile son raped my daughter for years

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M reeling after discovering my son raped my daughter and can’t help but blame myself.

It came out when he was high on drugs and he admitted to a girlfriend he had sex with his sister.


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This news got back to me. He was 16 when it started and my daughter was 12. It wasn’t a one-off incident. He abused her for a few years.

When I asked my daughter, she sobbed it was the truth and seemed relieved she could finally tell someone.

We went to the police but they said they couldn’t take it further for lack of evidence. But I believe her.

My son just laughs and says his sister made it all up even though she has self-harmed and tried to take her own life.

He’s now 23 and I have little contact with him.

I’m a 46-year-old single mum of three. My children’s dad left us years ago.

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DEAR DEIDRE: Sibling sexual abuse, like all forms of sexual abuse, is an abuse of power. Your son is an unhappy, angry young man, and likely suffering from having an absent dad, but this is no excuse.

This is not your fault. Whatever has happened to him, your son has choices.
You and your daughter both need help to process what happened.

Contact the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (napac.org.uk, 0808 801 0331). You can also find help through Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).

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