Wedding photographers reveal ‘red flags’ that signal a doomed marriage
Wedding photographers reveal the ‘red flags’ they see at ceremonies that signal a doomed marriage – including no eye contact and poor ‘cake etiquette’
- A group of wedding photographers have spoken about relationship ‘red flags’
- Smashing the cake into your partner’s face and fighting were both mentioned
- Others said there seemed to be an ‘omen’ surrounding outdoor weddings
A group of wedding photographers have revealed the relationship ‘red flags’ they have noticed at ceremonies over the years that ultimately signalled a ‘doomed’ marriage.
The photographers formed Reddit thread to explain how various simple moments at weddings ultimately spelled the start of a marriage breakdown.
From smashing cake into one another’s faces to fighting on the day of their nuptials, these were the tell-tale signs they could all agree on.
A group of wedding photographers have revealed the relationship ‘red flags’ they noticed on the day of the nuptials – and that ultimately signalled the end of the marriage
1. Whether there was cake etiquette
Depending on personal preference some couples decide to smear a small amount of wedding cake into their new wife or husband’s face after cutting it up, while others steer clear of the tradition.
But you should choose carefully whether you want to abide by the idea or not.
‘To me the biggest sign is the cake cutting. Some people like to smear the cake everywhere as a joke, some people don’t,’ one photographer said.
‘Usually the couple is in sync about this. They know what the other would like and they don’t smush cake on the others face if they wouldn’t want that.
‘Sometimes one of them (usually the groom) will force cake all over the other’s face and embarrass and upset them. I’ve seen this happen a handful of times and all of those relationships that I have kept up with have ended in a divorce.’
There was more than one commenter who agreed with this.
‘I swear that all of the couples that have split up have smashed the cake in their partner’s face. None of the nice cake couples have. Just my weird anecdotal experience. Maybe it’s a sign of respect for each other,’ one man said.
2. Having a bad fight on the day
While weddings are notoriously stressful for both the bride and groom, having a terrible fight on the day tends to be a bad omen.
‘The one couple we hope we never see again fought the entire wedding day. The couple barely looked at each other, it was so bad,’ a photographer duo said.
‘Then we had to Photoshop a smile onto the groom a couple of times so he at least looked happy in the ceremony of all things.
‘I have no idea if they are together still but I would say not.’
How a couple works together on the day of the ceremony says a lot about what their marriage will be like.
‘If they are respectful toward one another (and toward me) during a day full of stress then I think that’s a good indicator of being able to deal with other problems that may arise during a marriage,’ a woman said.
Depending on personal preference some couples decide to push a small amount of wedding cake into their new wife or husband’s face after cutting it up, while others steer clear of the tradition
3. When the couple are very quiet or won’t talk
Just as overly loud and obnoxious couples can signal trouble, those that barely speak throughout the day are also a concern, so says their photographers.
‘One instance was a groom who barely said ten words to anyone during the ceremony or reception afterwards. The bride and her mother were extremely loud and excited the entire time,’ they said.
‘The bride needed everything to be “perfect”. I dropped off the photo bundle with them two weeks later and he was still quiet.
‘She however complained about all of the pictures because the groom wasn’t “smiling enough”. She wanted a discount because I couldn’t make him look happy enough. They got divorced about a year later.’
4. Wanting to change a partner
Photographers will usually sit down with their subjects ahead of the day and discuss what sort of images they hope to achieve.
‘I try to get to know both people beforehand so I can work in their hobbies/unique traits into my product,’ one person said.
‘A big red flag is when one person is clearly trying to change the other. I had one dude who loved poker, craft beer, cigars, hanging with his rowdy friends, video games, etc.
While weddings are notoriously stressful for both the bride and groom, having a terrible fight on the day you decide to join together as one tends to be a bad omen
‘I planned a cool shoot where I had all his friends in an old west saloon, and he sees his bride to be, etc… but she steps in and declares “oh, he won’t be doing any of those things any more.”
‘Poor b*****d just sat there in silence as I awkwardly had to plan them shopping for a Yorkie puppy instead. Halfway through post production after the wedding, he called and said he was getting an annulment. I wanted to say “could have told ya so!” But I try to stay neutral.’
5. The ‘omen’ of getting married outdoors
One photographer said that a park his clients got married in had a 100 per cent divorce rate – with several couples choosing to part ways after tying the knot in ‘Omen Meadows’.
So other professionals chimed in to say they distrusted any sort of outside venue at all.
‘Just try to be under some sort of cover. Whether it be rain or wind, you’ll want some kind of protection from the elements – or it could lead to unnecessary fighting on the day,’ another said.
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